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Cheryl - The Art of Being Conflicted

It’s Not What You Said But How You Said It

A couple of weeks ago, I did a post about Travel + Leisure magazine’s poll of the rudest cities in America.  Not to keep kicking a dead horse, I have a few more things to say in reference to rude people and how I perceive them.

Today  I was reading a blog written by a fellow Kansas Citian,  about the rude fans that surrounded her and her family at a Comets Soccer game.  Two thoughts came out of this. BTW You can check out that blog I was reading if you care to, it is  People I Want to Punch In the Throat. It is the post from Monday called “People we met at the Soccer game.

Thought # 1   Even though, I am conflicted, I am 100% clear on the fact that rude people suck.

As we have talked about in the past, I have a personality of constantly being “conflicted”.  No matter what the topic is introduced to my wayward mind, I will start the “pros and cons” list.  The wrong or right…the in and outs of all subjects.  This is not to be confused with you  thinking I don’t have my own opinions.  I do.  Just as Dirty Harry said in the movie Dead Pool, “Opinions are like A**holes, everyone has one”.  (Didn’t Dirty Harry have a way with words?)

Normally, I am open to the tenor of what people say but not necessarily open to the tone in which they deliver the message.  HHHMMMM ….how can I clarify this a bit.  Say whatever trash talk, ill conceived, stupid crap to me that you want and and my analytical brain will be searching for the logic to substantiate your point of view.  That is if you are speaking to me politely.  I will promptly dismiss any notion of your point of view…deem it total crap…kick it to the curb…if you are in my face being a jerk.

Here’s the deal.  I tend to be both left brained and right brained equally. I tend to be very analytical, logical while being very creative and thinking “outside the box”.  NOT only am I both right and left brained, I don’t seem to have a dominant personality trait.

True….no matter how often I take DISC or Brigg Meyers or any other test that is supposed to reveal my personality, I will always come out nearly equal in  all possible categories.  In the DISC test, for example I am equal parts  Dominant, Influential, Steady or Compliant.

Even in my motor skills,  I am ambidextrous.  Both left and right handed.    Unlike most brains that have a dominant side, my brain is up there being all friendly.  Both sides are BFFs.

If you have an opinion, (and we have already established that you do) on any given subject, I am open to hearing it.  That is not to say I will agree with you but I will respectfully listen to you.  As I listen, I will be finding reasons to substantiate why your point of view might be right. Of course, simultaneously,  I will also be checking off the column in my head that is telling me why your opinion is a total load of crap. Still, I will politely listen, offer alternate ideas, listen some more.  It will be really friendly.  (Unless, of course, you tell me something like your are going to kill your Mother-in-law.  Then I will be checking off all the boxes that says that is WRONG, WRONG, ABORT ABORT.   The bitch might need to die but it isn’t your place to do it.  That really is being rude on your part.)

The operative word here  to make the world a better place is being POLITE.  When did the world get so very combative?  Not just in opposing opinions but even in social graces.  When did people become so insensitive to the feelings of others?

But I digress….I usually don’t take offense at whatever you say to me or how you live your life.  Live and let live is my motto but after reading the post from the blogger dealing with rude sporting events fans, COUPLED WITH A TRIP TO THE WALMART  that has me considering never shopping again, I am feeling the need for civility.

# Thought #2  How is it I didn’t know there were two major soccer teams in Kansas City?

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    A veteran of corporate moves from which I survived moving 21 times for my husband's job. I currently am a married, middle-aged (if I make it to 116) middle income, mom living in the very middle of the country, with time on her hands to jot down observations, judgements, and musings about past and current events.

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